Sunday, September 23, 2012

Happy Birthday Month to Me!!

It is my birthday and I am not ashamed to say that I love birthday month.  I'm not really a center of attention type of person; I don't relish getting older, but I love an excuse to do things entirely selfishly that are just for fun. I embrace the meals with family and friends; the spice cake, zucchini bread, drinks, and coffees; I cherish the FB posts, texts, calls, well wishers, birthday buddies, girls trips, thoughtful little cards, and tiny thoughtful treasures.

Most years, since my Freshman year of college, I have ditched (not just school or work but responsibility and duty) and dragged someone with me.  99.99453% of the year, I hold myself accountable (translation: boring), but on my birthday, I want to be entirely carefree and un-tethered.  My Dear Best Friend from college / Room-mate is really the one who started this craze.  We would spend glorious days at museums, the beach, sleeping in, pedicures, and spa trips (in that brief period where we both had disposable income).  She embraced the ditch day  like no one else (sometimes we expanded it to a week to encompass both our birthdays - and at this point I just admit it and call September birthday month).  Eventually I dragged my then boyfriend (now DH) into this debauchery (which he was a more then willing participant and even handled the predictable consequences with dignity).

As if ditching weren't enough, I do something that is a total waste of time.  One year I messed around on Adobe Creative Suite for hours.  Other years I plan trips we are decades from being able to take or design house projects we have no intention of completing this side of the kids' college.  I've organized thousands of pictures into digital collages that I will probably never have the money to print.  Last year, I played on Pinterest for an entire day.  This year, I set up my goodreads account; I entered books read over the last 3 years and then went back and thought of some of my favorite (and least favorite) books from my college and high school years.  It was a wonderful walk down memory lane and so fun.  The only problem is looking at the lists of books:  I can almost hear the words of my favorite college English / literature professor, Dr. Rosalie deRosset, as she glances down my rather lengthy selection and with a sigh of abandon says, 

"You had so much potential; Oh my Dear Star, how far you have fallen."

At one time I read for enlightenment and knowledge and to become a better person, going way beyond books assigned for classes, but my most recent books are a barrage of romantic comedies and fluff, intermixed with best sellers.  I rationalize to my internal conscience that I read them so I can remain current and because the real world is quite serious enough, but in reality, mindless reading is easy (and fun and I like Twilight / karmic / happy endings).  If Goodreads has done one thing, it has been a reminder of the quality literature that I've always wanted to read but had forgotten (or repressed).  I can't wait to go back to our favorite library (with my DD who also loves to read) and pick those up.

My plan tomorrow (my actual birthday) is to kidnap My (not totally unwilling) Dear Son and drag him kicking and screaming from his Middle School day to join me for some outside school studying of the culture and history of Downtown; A day spent devoid of mature obligation, constrictive clothing, and impending pressure to duty.  We walk the lakefront, ride the ferris wheel, and laugh.  We will drink real fountain coke and listen to 90's music, loud with the windows down.  We will eat caramel corn while we walk; wear comfy pants and then arrive back in Suburbia just in time to pick up his sister from elementary school.

and I will pass on a legacy of calculated, selfish, and safe birthday debauchery...


  1. Good morning Kel and Happy Birthday to you! Lovely post. I am starting to seriously think about taking my b-day off and having a spa day...I have never done that but I think it is time. It is the guilt of "ditching" work that has always pulled me away from it. Anyways, I hope you have a splendid day in the sounds wonderful.

    1. Thanks and Absolutely, this year especially! Waste no more! and if you need someone to join / encourage you in this debauchery, I'm totally free :0)